Overthinking, jealousy?

Are you an overthinker? Super jealous? Where does this come from, and why does it exist?

I know some male and even female friends who are overthinkers, especially those who have trust issues from previous relationships.

I hope that if you are in a situation where your partner is an overthinker, you will try to understand their situation. I am sure that, in one way or another, you, too, have been an overthinker at some point in your life.

The question is: Is it natural for a person to be an overthinker? I think it is possible, and it often appears when a person finds a reason to doubt or to be jealous.

Let me give you an example. There is this young lady, aged 25, single, with no children, and perhaps she has been in several relationships since her younger years. She is pretty, she is nice, but the problem is that she is very, very friendly with guys, which is quite unusual. She hangs out with friends (male friends) and, take note, even with men she has just met. Yes, even on a first meeting, she goes out or hangs out with men she does not even know well, whether married or single.

By the way, there is an old, ugly man courting her who has been overthinking ever since they got to know each other. Why? Because this young lady goes on dates with whoever she wishes, ranging from teenagers to young men and even old, filthy rich men.

And every time this old, ugly man asks about her whereabouts — who she is with or what she is doing — the young lady flares up easily. It is up to you what you want to think about that young woman. What do you think?

I am not trying to justify why the old, ugly man is overthinking and jealous. What I am trying to figure out here is the reason why there are people who are overthinkers. Is it connected with jealousy or overprotectiveness?

Another thing I want to focus on is why the young lady gets angry every time the old, ugly man asks a question. Is she guilty? Are the man’s suspicions — that the other men she was talking to and spending time with were also boyfriends or were in relationships with her — true? Is it because when the old, ugly man asked her one question after another, the young lady immediately got angry and played the victim?

As I said, in a relationship, acceptance, trust, respect, and understanding are important. And if there is a mistake or offense against each other, forgiveness is equally important. These are the ingredients for strengthening a relationship between two people who love each other.

Let us all look to, and if possible be inspired by, the words of Saint Paul to the Corinthians about love.