Heart, unfiltered: Why self-love isn’t selfish

Inside the emotionally charged walls of Pinoy Big Brother: Celebrity Collab Edition, actress, style icon, and artist Heart Evangelista dropped a truth bomb that resonated far beyond the house: “You can’t win them all.”

It was raw and painfully honest—exactly the kind of moment that doesn’t need dramatics to hit hard. In just a few words, Heart captured a reality many wrestle with but are too afraid to say out loud: no matter how hard you try, how sincere your efforts, or how kind your intentions—there will always be people who won’t understand you. And that’s okay.

“You pour your heart into everything, and still people will misunderstand you,” she said, her voice steady but vulnerable. “But that’s not your fault. Stop chasing everyone’s approval.”

The moment marked one of the most powerful exchanges in recent PBB memory—not just because of who Heart is, but because of what she chose to share.

A quiet rebellion

Heart’s visit wasn’t all glam and fanfare. It became a mirror, not just for the housemates, but for herself. When asked if one must love themselves before they can love others, she answered without hesitation.

“Of course,” she said. “There was a time I felt completely lost. I went through a rebellious phase. I wanted out of my marriage—not because I didn’t love Chiz, but because I didn’t feel understood.”

Her honesty disarmed everyone in the room. This wasn’t the curated social media version of Heart. This was Love Marie in her most human form—vulnerable, flawed, and healing.

She recalled how trying to be everything for everyone nearly erased who she was. “I thought I was stuck. I was giving too much to everyone else, and I forgot to give to myself.”

Learning to stay

At the heart of her story was the fear of being alone—especially knowing her husband is 15 years older. “That scares me,” she confessed. “But that fear reminded me: I have to love myself first. Because I can’t pour from an empty cup.”

Heart’s insights were grounded in pain, but also in growth. She reminded the housemates to never lose sight of what truly matters: self-worth, family, and inner peace.

“Be thankful for your family. But don’t forget to take care of yourself,” she said. “It’s not selfish. It’s survival.”

No more people pleasing

In a world obsessed with validation and social media perfection, Heart’s words were a quiet rebellion. She didn’t speak as a celebrity trying to impress. She spoke as a woman who had been through the fire—and came out softer, wiser, stronger.

“To those trying to please everyone—stop,” she said. “You don’t need everyone’s approval. Just your own—and the few who truly see you.”

Her final message lingered like a gentle echo: Live your journey. Embrace your truth. Protect your peace.

Because, in the end, you really can’t win them all. And that’s the point.