Let me first begin by saying that as I was preparing this eulogy, I was struck by the fact that it was not a difficult task. I usually hear that people struggle to write eulogies, but I have to say I did not find it too hard. And I did not find it too hard because I thought about how great my Lola was and is, literally all the time. The fact that you are here today shows that you knew what a force of nature she is too. And that brings me immense joy and pride.

Now death is difficult, especially when it is sudden, like this one is, but at the same time, it provides us an opportunity to reflect on the fragility and beauty of life.

Lola, it pains me that I won't be seeing you around anymore, but I will admit that I am not afraid to do life without you. I will miss you, so much, but I will not crumble without you. You did not raise me to falter in the face of hardship. And it is precisely because of you that I am confident in my ability to carry on. You taught me everything I need to know, after all.

Allow me to share with you all today the lessons my Lola taught me, that I'm sure she taught you too, as I feel they are important ones for everyone to carry with them.

Lola, you taught me about the aim of true love: It brings strength. It makes you a better person. It allows you to learn to be whole on your own, no matter what comes your way. It makes you believe in yourself.

You taught me about the unconditional nature of love: It does not mean loving someone no matter what they do to you. It, in fact, means holding yourself accountable and holding your loved one to the same high standards. It means having integrity. It means taking care of yourself so you can take care of them, and they, you.

You taught me about power. You taught me that power need not roar, terrorize, or destroy. You showed me that true power whispers. It nurtures, it defends, it protects. It strengthens others. It feels all encompassing, yes, but it does not needlessly threaten. It unites. They always say that empowered women empower women, and you are a shining example of that.