(This is the second and last part of Dino Datu's column from last Thursday which delved on up-and-coming junior golfer Aerin Chan and the whole-hearted support of her dad, basketball star Jeff Chan).

Dino (to Jeff): Being a pro basketball player, is there a tendency to be overly competitive? Do you and Aerin fight sometimes?

Jeff (laughing while Aerin pauses to listen to his answer): I don't want to push her but honestly sometimes I do, maybe a little too much. We don't fight and I don't scold her, I just make "reminders." I really can't help it. Hahaha. Sometimes in tournaments, when she gets frustrated, I signal from afar to calm down. But I know it's easier said than done.

Both laugh and Aerin continues hitting wedges to 40, 50 and 60 yards.

Jeff: Sometimes I need to "gently" remind Aerin to focus, to not forget details like pre-shot routine, to not let her temper affect her game. She can also have a tendency to "cruise," not to be "diesel" (slow starter), or worse, not to lower her game if she feels she can easily beat her opponents. I need to reminder her to "step on the gas." The pressure to win doesn't come from us (parents). On the contrary, I sometimes tell Aerin to not expect good results every time she tees it up. Especially in tournaments where she is unfamiliar with the course or is stepping up to more difficult divisions, I tell her to just enjoy and learn. But the desire and expectation to win comes from her.

While Aerin was busy getting her clubs, I privately asked Jeff a question that I didn't want Aerin to hear:

D: Jeff, in case Aerin suddenly says "Dad, I wanna quit golf," with all the time and resources you and Donna have put into her golf, would you allow her to stop playing?

J: Yes, but we will first need to find out why. Donna and I am not pushing Aerin to go pro eventually. It was never our intention. But with Aerin showing promise, we are hoping that she reaches a level where she can get scholarship offers from colleges in the US. Education is more important for us. It can set her up for life, beyond golf. If Aerin really keeps improving and she gets to go pro and compete in the LPGA, why not? But that'll just be a bonus. We'd be more than happy just to see Aerin get into top schools in the US. That's more than enough for us.