The Art of Knowing

One of the most meaningful ways to show someone you love them—whether romantically or platonically—is by remembering and knowing the little things.

Yes, sometimes people make a big deal out of it, but those who truly care will notice and remember.

There were times guys would forget that I didn’t like certain things, but my friends always knew. They would say, “hey we know you don’t eat this…” or “hey I saw this and instantly reminded me of you…”—simple moments, yet so sweet, that make you feel truly seen and loved.

Then a guy came along, and when I heard those words for the first time in my life, I wanted to melt then and there.

LEGO Botanical

Here’s the story: I have allergic rhinitis, so bouquets from family or friends were always dried flowers or something that isn’t alive.

Valentine’s Day is approaching, and he bought me Lego flowers.

When he gave them to me, he said, “I remembered you have allergy so I’m not sure how it would react to fresh flowers, I also remembered you like legos and your favorite color is purple and so I chose this one with some purple elements.” I didn’t know what to say.

My parents are like that too—they notice when I want something but never ask for it. They either get it for me or remind me I deserve it.

The art of noticing the one you love goes far beyond gifts.

It’s in the quiet, thoughtful actions: knowing what to do when you’re hungry, anticipating when help is needed, or offering support because they know you would never ask.

Love languages differ, but sometimes the deepest way to say “I love you” is simply by knowing someone—seeing them, remembering the little things, and making them feel understood. For me, that is the truest form of love.