As December rolls into January, the air fills with a sense of renewal and aspiration. People around me make long lists of New Year’s resolutions — for self-improvement and change, like losing weight, saving money, or improving at work.
However, I’ve witnessed many friends struggle and stumble as they break their resolutions. I’ve seen how quickly enthusiasm can wane. Each stumble tells a story of determination in the face of life’s distractions and failures.
While I admire people’s resolve to change for the better, I’ve opted to steer clear of this tradition. To me, it is healthier to cultivate a mindset that reduces the frequency of mistakes.
Statistics indicate that many people abandon their resolutions within just a few weeks. When individuals set high expectations tied to an arbitrary date, it can lead to feelings of failure, guilt, and frustration when their progress falls short of those expectations.
I stopped making New Year’s resolutions 16 years ago after my mother passed away. She was the only one who kept track of my resolutions and would laugh at me whenever I failed.
With no more scorer, opting out of this ritual feels like a small but significant step toward my personal growth. It allows me to move beyond rigid targets and make room for self-acceptance. It’s my way of freeing myself from guilt and mistakes.
Rather than setting ambitious goals that may lead to feelings of failure or disappointment, I choose to adopt a more forgiving mindset, long before I learned, in childhood memories, that it was not Santa Claus who put the toys in the socks we hung during Christmas.
Self-imposed resolutions should not be confined to the start of a new year. Growth and change are constants in our lives; they can happen at any time of the day.
People can feel motivated in June or experience a burst of creativity in September because transformation is a continuous journey. Empowering ourselves with progress whenever the timing feels right could lead to a more genuine commitment to personal development, free from the constraints of a self-made promise.
In short, why not set smaller, more achievable goals throughout the year? Making incremental changes, such as dedicating time each month to learning something new or gradually introducing healthier habits into our routine allows for flexibility.
Reflections can be lost in the excitement of New Year’s resolutions. Taking the time to reflect regularly helps ensure that our goals align with what we truly desire.
In celebrating our journey, we recognize that progress toward our dream comes with every achievement, big or small. Each step forward deserves recognition; thus, it is all right to reward ourselves for every consistent effort.
Let us not set a timeline for self-improvement. Life itself is unpredictable. By simply being a good human being, we do not need to make further promises to ourselves to feel better.
Personal improvement is not a race or competition; it’s a lifelong quest that can be infused with joy, intention, and authenticity—not just on New Year’s day but any day of the year.
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