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Why New Year's resolutions often fail (and how to rethink them)

Amelia Clarissa de Luna Monasterial · Dec 31, 2025, 12:08 AM

NEW Year's Resolutions can be a source of anxiety and disappointment to some. Focus on small, meaningful steps instead of lofty lists. — Banner by Sheila Figueroa for Daily Tribune.

If the December holidays are all about merriment and celebrating what you accomplished this past year, New Year's Eve and the arrival of January 2026 are when many of us feel pressured to make a checklist of lofty goals— goals that may gather dust long before the second week of the month.

The idea of a New Year's resolution is admirable: it signals hope, the pursuit of betterment, and optimism for the year ahead. But the specifics are where things often go off track. You might have written "Buy a house" or "lose weight" on your 2025 list, only to cross them out or modify them by December: "Buy a house(plant)" and "gain weight instead." Instead of feeling accomplished, you end up disappointed, shaking your head, and trying not to cry.

Here's what you can do differently this year:

Forget the calendar. Time is a concept. Sure, the New Year symbolizes beginnings, but you can start over any time. You don’t need society to dictate your timeline. If you aren’t ready until February or even halfway through the year in June, then that’s perfectly fine.
Set achievable goals first. Long-term progress comes from small, consistent steps. Instead of writing "lose weight," ask yourself: What meals should I prioritize? How many steps should I take daily? Are you aiming to fit into your clothes or to build a healthy body that makes you feel good? For a goal like buying a house, try: "Save a portion of my salary for a down payment" and "improve my credit score." Make these actions non-negotiable, and eventually, the bigger goals will follow naturally.
Focus on what truly makes you happy. Ask yourself if a goal is genuinely meaningful or just a measure of societal success. The right goal should inspire contentment, excitement, and peace, not pressure or dread. When you love the goal, the journey becomes easier because consistent effort naturally brings you closer to it.

Finally, if some resolutions from last year remain unfinished, don’t stress. You have all the time in the world. As long as you put in the work and believe in yourself, delays are not setbacks. Sometimes, it’s not a denial but a signal. The universe could be saying, "Wait a little, and something even better is on the way!"