It was an early breakfast — one I hadn’t expected — courtesy of a figure I wish I had known much earlier. The table was set for the Titos and Titas — those seasoned by both age and conversation — and yet, as I found my place among them, I realized that I too had quietly joined their ranks. Life reminded me again that morning, through the birth of my first niece.
This generous Tito — generous not only in the meal he prepared but in the wisdom, he shared — spoke with the ease of someone whose conscience remained anchored. We had just met, yet he spoke as though we had long been navigating the same waters.
I was far too young when Club 365 began, that old Makati breakfast club where politicians, businessmen, journalists, and thinkers met to trade ideas. But I’d long admired that tradition — a table where conversation could be candid yet civil, spirited but sincere.
That morning, I felt a faint echo of that old spirit. No microphones, no formalities — just people talking about the country, conscience, and the times we’re in. Perhaps, without meaning to, we had recreated that tradition — the kind where truth is served with coffee and listening is as important as speaking.
The table, I remember, seemed to lean toward three of its four corners — not from uneven legs, but from the gravity of those who sat there. Each carried years of stories, service, and survival. The corner that leaned the most was Tito’s. My corner, I suppose, was up several notches — figuratively, though I’m clearly on the plus side.
He had something to tell me — part direction, part advice. While I won’t share his words letter by letter, I’ll share what they stirred in me. Wisdom isn’t just in what’s said; it’s in what it awakens about your place in the order of things.
Some of us prefer to remain calm and reflective — not to escape the noise, but to better hear where we’re needed. Reflection isn’t retreat; it’s preparation. We pause, but we also act. Every choice, however small, ripples outward.
Remember what we owe the nation and the next generation. It’s not only to speak when things are wrong, but to live in a way that keeps what is right alive.
I’ve often been told that I play it too safe. Perhaps that’s true. I’ve never liked raining on anyone’s parade — especially when I know how hard it is to put one together. But there comes a time when silence no longer feels like grace, but surrender. When it’s time to stand up, even after being taught to sit down, we stand. Not to disrupt, but to remind.
That morning reminded me of the covenant between leaders and those they lead. It isn’t written, but understood: leadership is borrowed, not owned; followership, when dignified, is participation, not submission. Both are accountable to the same truth — the well-being of the nation that feeds them.
We are not, as the song “Dati” says, “tao-taong laruan, piso-pisong nabili.” We are not playthings when people in power play. We are the very reason power exists — to serve, not to subdue; to lift, not to lord over.
When attending what seemed like a birthday treat for Tito, I thought I should be the one bringing a present. But true to form, it was he who had a gift for me — not wrapped, not spoken, but given through wisdom. A reminder that even in a time of noise, there remains space for conscience; and that leadership, at its best, begins not in grand offices, but in the quiet gravity of a breakfast table.