Five lessons from Bea Borres’ pregnancy

When content creator Bea Borres revealed her pregnancy in an emotional video on 12 August 2025, it should have been a cause for happy tears. Instead, it arrived after months of rumors, speculation and unsolicited commentary — most notably from internet personality Xian Gaza, who revealed the news long before Bea was ready to share it herself.

And that’s where the discomfort begins.

Culture of premature disclosure

In a digital age where virality frequently overcomes empathy, Bea’s pregnancy became public debate before it ever occurred. Gaza’s blind item — thinly veiled and widely interpreted — deprived Bea of the opportunity to own her story. What should have been a private milestone turned into a guessing game, a spectacle and, finally, a confirmation under pressure.

As Bea said in her vlog, “I want to say sorry to myself ’cause this isn’t how I imagined doing this. But I’m just so proud of myself because kaya ko, kinakaya ko (I can handle it, I am handling it).”

Parasocial paradox

While Bea opens up about her life online as a content creator, it does not mean that she is obligated to reveal every detail. The parasocial interaction between creators and their audiences frequently blurs boundaries, with fans feeling entitled to updates, explanations and facts. However, pregnancy, like loss and healing, is not content. It’s a personal experience.

Her announcement wasn’t just a reveal — it was a reclamation. “It was never meant to be a secret,” she wrote. But it was meant to be hers.

Role of support systems

The warmth of Bea’s inner circle served to lessen the blow of public exposure. Toni Fowler and Alex Gonzaga were by her side while she took the test. Andrea Brillantes cried with her via video call, stating, “Huwag kang kabahan. Nandito ako para sa’yo, Bea (Don’t be nervous. I am here for you, Bea).”

Their reactions reminded us that behind every viral moment is a real person, surrounded by real people who care.

Capability and age

Some netizens questioned Bea’s readiness, citing her youth. But, at 22, Bea is no longer a child. She is a working woman, a digital entrepreneur, and someone who has previously demonstrated perseverance. As one user said: “Isang vlog lang nyan, buhay na anak nyan ng hanggang 1 year.” And she agrees. “I’d really, really be the best mom,” she promised in her video.

Lessons in boundaries

This story serves as a reminder: if you know anything about someone, don’t preempt them. Don’t make their reality into your content. Trust is fragile, and timing is personal.