Does generosity have to end for independence to begin?

In my first column, I asked: Where do we draw the line between generosity and enabling? How do we give with compassion without creating dependency?

These are questions many women wrestle with mothers, daughters, sisters, and caregivers who are often the first to give when a need arises. I think of my son, who instinctively rolls down the car window to give coins to children on the street. His heart is pure, and I admire that. But I also wonder: what if it’s the same child each time?

Is it still generosity, or is it now something less helpful?

As a mother, I want to raise a kind son. As a public servant, I want him to be wise too. Because while those few pesos offer short-term relief, the bigger question remains: are we creating a path forward or keeping someone where they are?

Giving that empowers

Generosity must evolve. It’s not just about money. It can be our time, skills, or platform. True generosity opens doors and builds futures.

Take Caritas Manila’s Youth Servant Leadership and Education Program (YSLEP). They don’t just offer aid, they provide education, mentorship, and leadership training to poor but promising youth. Many of them once lived on the streets. This kind of generosity leads to diplomas, careers, and dignity.

As women, we are often caught between the instinct to comfort now and the desire to nurture long-term change. But we can do both. Instead of handing out coins on impulse, what if we supported institutions that turn handouts into breakthroughs?

Even with busy lives, a few minutes spent donating to a cause, sharing information, or volunteering can make ripples. Generosity doesn’t need to be grand. It needs to be thoughtful.

When the soul speaks

Matthew 6:11-12 says, “Give us this day our daily bread…” Sometimes, a beggar’s outstretched hand is a silent prayer. If we are able, perhaps we are the answer. But we must ask: does our giving help someone move forward—or stay still?

There’s no shame in giving a coin. But let’s not stop there. Many street dwellers don’t just need relief, they need belief. Society must offer not only hands, but ladders.

The decriminalization of vagrancy (RA 10158) was a step forward. Now we must replace judgment with purpose.

Alelee Aguilar Action Center Podcast

Two weeks ago, we launched a podcast that highlights real stories of transformation. You’ll hear from volunteers, mothers, and even former street kids who now uplift others. Thank you to my tireless team Brian, Ivan, Frank, Brandone, and Jowie.

Watch on my Facebook and TikTok pages. And if you have a story, we’d love to hear it.

In closing

No, generosity doesn’t have to end for independence to begin. It just has to mature. Let’s give not just from our hands, but from our hearts with wisdom and purpose.

And to my sister Budjit “SabongChick” Aguilar, thank you for supporting our Hakhak Challenge. Your generosity fuels small dreams into big realities.

Let’s raise not just hands, but hopes.