Behind ‘You’re so funny’

TikTok is known for its viral trends that entertain, but one recent trend, the “You’re so funny…” challenge, is doing more than just that — it’s revealing the raw, often painful truths behind the laughter.

Users share a lighthearted moment, then flip the script to unveil a painful, sometimes traumatic experience.

One video that stood out was posted by Fe, a 22-year-old now living independently in Manila.

What began as a simple attempt to join the viral challenge turned into a deeply personal and gut-wrenching glimpse into her life.

Fe’s post started with a typical “You’re so funny…” but took a dramatic turn with her shocking revelation:

“Thanks! My mom had a mental disorder when she was 18 because of an accident, and she went missing in Manila.”

“When they found her after six months, she was pregnant. To this day, we have no idea who my father is, but I know he’s a piece of trash because he took advantage of my mom.”

“She doesn’t even recognize me, and she still doesn’t know I exist. I have no idea what it’s like to have a whole family or to be cared for by my biological parents,” Fe wrote in Filipino.

The honesty of Fe’s post resonated with thousands of viewers, many offering sympathy and support.

A life of resilience amid tragedy

In an interview with DAILY TRIBUNE, Fe shared how she’s remained strong despite everything.

“My mom doesn’t recognize me as her child,” she said.

“But I guess because I was so young when I became aware of our situation, I was able to accept it early on. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, but I’m okay now. I can handle my emotions, at least to some extent. I just keep reminding myself that God has a plan and a reason for why I’m here.”

Fe has carried this emotional burden since childhood yet continues to move forward.

“I always feel really sad on my birthday (8 February) because that’s when I think more about my situation — another year has passed where my mom still doesn’t recognize me, and I still don’t know my dad,” she said.

“Then I saw the trend with the ‘You’re so funny’ sound, and I just tried joining in by sharing my life story. I only posted it in my dump account so that people who know me wouldn’t see it. But when it went viral, I was overwhelmed. At first, I felt shy about it, but I appreciated the people who messaged and commented,” she added.

A painful childhood

Fe’s challenges began long before her viral TikTok. At 18, her mother suffered a traumatic accident, which left her physically and mentally scarred.

“I feel more pain for my mom because she never got to enjoy her life as a single woman,” Fe replied in Filipino in one of the comments on her post.

She doesn’t want to go into full details regarding her mother’s accident but revealed that her mother lost an arm, which greatly impacted her mental health.

“Since my mom was already struggling with her mental health during her pregnancy, she would punch her own stomach and hit her stomach against things. But thank God, I was still born healthy and without any physical issues,” Fe shared.

Fe’s strength was forged early, as her grandparents supported her education through grade 10, her aunt helped fund her senior high and the first semester of college, but Fe became a working student starting in her third year of college to support herself.

Hence, due to a medical operation, Fe had to stop her studies. Despite the hardships, she dreams of returning to school.

Fe’s story is full of heartbreak, but also resilience. She has learned how to survive despite the emotional scars of not having a family who could care for her as a child.

Although she carries the burden of not knowing her father and not being recognized by her mother, she continues to hold on to hope and grateful to her grandparents.

Mental health in the Philippines

Fe mentioned in a comment on her TikTok that the accident met by her mother occurred in Leyte. Since they live in the province, there is limited access to mental health facilities

According to a 2023 study, in the Philippines, mental health issues have grown significantly. The number of people diagnosed with mental disorders has increased from 7.0 million to 12.5 million between 1990 and 2019, with anxiety and depression being the most common.

The World Health Organization has recommended increasing political prioritization, funding and collaboration for mental health care.

The Philippine Mental Health Act, enacted in 2018, marked progress. Historically, however, mental health funding was low, accounting for only 5 percent of the healthcare budget.

Recent developments are encouraging, such as a nearly twenty-fold increase in mental health funding, from 57 million to 1 billion pesos between 2022 and 2023.

Additionally, the Philippines is piloting a mental health package for outpatient care. However, challenges remain, including delayed reimbursements, which can last up to three months.

Sustainable funding sources, including private sector involvement, are crucial for continued progress.

Fe’s message to others

What does Fe want the world to know after sharing her painful journey?

“I know it’s not easy. Sometimes, we question whether we deserve to go through so much pain — why, out of all the people in the world, we have to be the ones in this situation,” she said.

“But I hope you can still try to see the positive side of life. We were given the chance to live and witness the beauty of this world. It’s not always happy, but let’s find strength in the people who love us and trust that everything happens for a reason. Let’s appreciate what we have now — one day, life will turn in our favor,” she added.

Fe’s journey is not easy, and she’s aware of the challenges ahead. But she’s determined to live her life with strength, knowing that even though she hasn’t had the family she deserved, she still has the chance to make her life meaningful.

Fe’s TikTok video was more than just a viral moment — it was a powerful reminder that the people see on their screens may be hiding stories of trauma, loss and survival.

By sharing these stories, one can find healing and connection. Fe has found strength in her vulnerability, and through her story, people can all find strength in their own lives.