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Ahead of Rizal Day, the DT online team brainstormed content ideas for 30 December. We recalled random historical discussions with our editors, especially our in-house Rizal expert, Editor-at-Large Mr. John Dodson. Our vague recollections of Rizal-related lessons from university often turned into lively exchanges whenever Mr. Dodson passionately shared insights about the hero’s life during breaks. And, of course, being the nosy zillennials we are, one topic always piqued our interest: the women in Rizal’s life.

We’re all familiar with the names — Leonor Rivera, Leonor Valenzuela, Segunda Katigbak, Consuelo Ortiga y Rey, Osei-san, Gertrude Beckett, Nellie Boustead, Suzanne Jacoby, and Josephine Bracken. But the lingering questions always remain: What were the deeper stories behind each woman? Was Rizal truly the ladies’ man history paints him to be? And in 2024, how exactly did he “rizz” his way into their hearts?

("Rizz" is modern slang for effortless charm or charisma, especially when it comes to impressing or wooing someone. It’s the unspoken skill of making connections with humor, confidence, and authenticity. Think of it as the Gen Z twist on the classic "smooth talker," but with a little less cheese and a lot more finesse.)

Our research yielded surprisingly captivating results. For one, we never expected to devour entire history books about Rizal’s love life and still be left wanting more. But the way his sacrifices for the country intertwined with his personal relationships left us in awe. Rizal’s story goes beyond just romance — it’s about a man whose happiness was often overshadowed by his devotion to his country’s freedom and his influence on other heroes.

In the 1870s, Rizal’s romance with his cousin Leonor Rivera, conducted in secrecy due to societal norms, showcased a depth of passion that defied the times. However, historians argue that while Leonor held a significant place in Rizal’s heart, his affection wasn’t exclusive to her. His relationships often began with deep admiration and ended in separation, whether due to his travels, political pursuits, or the dangers posed by his fight for freedom.

Rizal’s relationships reveal an undeniable charm, his way with words, whether spoken or written, left lasting impressions. The sincerity of his letters and the short yet meaningful encounters with the women in his life made them feel cherished. The height of their love encompassed his own and the sincerity of his words through each letter sent, gave them the confidence that this man indeed is head over heels and cared for them.

But even the man hailed as a national hero wasn’t immune to moments of hesitation. At times, Rizal struggled to express his emotions, leaving without explanation. A move that, by today’s standards, might qualify as “ghosting.”

When we think of Rizal’s many loves, the question of his “TOTGA” (The One That Got Away) inevitably arises. Was it Segunda Katigbak, the love out of his league? Orang, his muse known for her playful flirtations? Or Osei-san, the Japanese woman he left behind despite their shared connection? The answer lies buried in history, sparking endless debates among scholars and admirers alike.

Ultimately, Rizal’s love stories remind us that the complexities of romance transcend time. From puppy love to heartbreak, his journey mirrors our modern struggles. Rizal may have wielded his intellect, charisma, and eloquence to win hearts, but even he couldn’t guarantee happiness in love. His story is a testament to the timeless truth: love knows no heroes, only humans.