Every LGBTQ+ person’s coming out story is different, showing the unique, colorful and sometimes difficult journeys they’ve taken to discover their true selves. In the fifth edition of its annual Pride Conversations, Google Philippines led an insightful discussion featuring YouTube creators on self-discovery and building a safe space to help them navigate their LGBTQ+ identity.

Hosted by multi-faceted creative and comedian Baus Rufo, the event highlighted the inspiring stories of LGBTQ+ YouTube personalities Roanne Carreon, Joshua Cruz, Jan Angelo Ong, and Yani Villarosa.

“Finding your queer identity is a never-ending process. Even if you’re out and seem like you have it all figured out, you’re still building that equation for your truth, and your authenticity. That’s why communities and representation matter because you need them to constantly be shown that these are the many possibilities that you have access to [as a member of the LGBTQ+ community],” Rufo said.

The journey to self-discovery and building safe spaces

Coming out and accepting one’s sexual orientation and gender identity are not always easy for members of the LGBTQ+ community. It can be a long and confusing process, so it’s perfectly fine to not have things figured out right away and to come out only when they’re ready. With the rise of platforms like YouTube, it’s now easier to find content that showcases different facets of LGBTQ+ lives and their experiences in discovering their identity.

“No one is pressuring you to come out, only do it when you’re ready. If you’re still figuring things out, you can Google resources to educate yourself and also find YouTube creators that resonate with your queer journey,” Cruz said.

The lifestyle content creator also admitted that they didn’t need to come out because of their supportive family. Cruz is paying it forward by being supportive of their viewers’ LGBTQ+ journey, encouraging them to express themselves freely.

Villarosa said it’s also important for influential creators like herself to remind her social media followers to slow down. “Social media can be so fast-paced that people feel the need to broadcast everything. When they see others coming out, they might feel that they have to match their pace. It’s really important to tell them to slow down, especially if they look up to you.”

Despite the belief that the Philippines welcomes LGBTQ+ members, many queer Filipinos struggle to express their true selves out of fear of discrimination and prejudice from loved ones. The lack of support could also make it hard to explore their sexuality and gender identity, which is why they turn to LGBTQ+ social media personalities and communities where they can meet like-minded people with similar experiences.

For Carreon, who is one-half of YouTube channel “Roanne and Tina” and co-founder of Queer Safe Spaces (QSS), it’s about providing support and representation, especially to young LGBTQ+ members.

“Growing up, we didn’t have role models, representation, and resources to educate people about LGBTQIA+ members. That’s why we do what we do: We wanted to create a community that can become a support system for members, especially if they’re still navigating their sexuality. It started out small, and now, we’re over 17,000 strong and we formalized QSS as a nonprofit organization,” she said.

Carreon added that being authentic and vulnerable is crucial to build relatability with their audience. This is why she and her partner, Tina Boado, showcase the good and ugly of their relationship in order to normalize what a regular day looks like for a WLW (women-loving-women) couple. “Our channel is a mix of fun things we do as a couple and educational content. We also talk about our mental health struggles in our videos.”

Villarosa is also candid about showing the “messy” sides of being a bisexual woman, who initially wasn’t accepted by her family when she came out in senior high school. “I created a safe space, not only for myself, but also for my listeners by being vulnerable about my experiences as a queer woman. I’ve shown that you’re allowed to be confused and messy, and people realize that it’s all normal. They managed to find a community that helped them realize that they’re not alone in their struggle.”

This goes to show YouTube’s impact in helping LGBTQ+ people in navigating their self-discovery, and also show them that they can achieve so much if they live their most authentic selves. “YouTube is that vehicle that allows for a safe space to let people dream,” Jan Angelo Ong said.

Allyship and kindness go a long way for LGBTQ+ community

Rec•Create founder Allison Barretto, who is one of Jan’s closest allies, believes that being an ally to the LGBTQ+ isn’t a difficult task. “It’s so easy to love people from the community and accept them as human. You just have to be a decent human being,” she said. “Start small, recognize your privilege, step up and show up for your LGBTQIA+ friends.”

Icoy Rapadas, who is Roanne and Tina’s ally, echoed the sentiment of being kind to others. He also acknowledged the privilege of being a cisgender heterosexual man, admitting that he had to unlearn many things and educated himself to become a good ally. “I want to make sure that LGBTQIA+ people are comfortable around me, and to inform my straight friends that it’s not okay to say certain things about LGBTQIA+ people,” he said.

The LGBTQ+ community needs allies who will celebrate their identity and lend a helping hand, even in the smallest ways, when they’re struggling. Whether they’re family, friends, or a colleague, they are the people who can help LGBTQ+ people live happily and confidently.