Though she is now married, actor and TV host Bettina Carlos’ heart still aches for single mothers.
Bettina, who was a single mom for 10 years, tied the knot with partner Mikki Eduardo in a romantic ceremony held on 2 December 2020 in Tagaytay Highlands.
During the #EdenSpeaks online forum, Bettina can’t help but feel nostalgic as she looked back at those years when she raised her daughter Gummy single-handedly.
“All the days and nights that overlap taping, hosting, bringing Gummy to school, spending time with her and then bond through baking.
Those unsure moments of whether what I was doing was enough. Does Gummy feel loved enough? Then there are insecurities that I have to deal with,” she said.
On top of managing emotions, time and household resources, it also didn’t help that there is an added challenge of stigma among single mothers.
Bettina said, “It’s like you have a sign on your head. It affects and manifests us in different ways. That kept me awake some nights. Even though those were challenging years, I’m thankful how matured and wise I’ve become, parang hindi ako magiging mature if God did not allow me to go through that route.”
She credits the emotional support and moral boosts she got from family, friends and the Lord which helped her during those difficult times.
“Successful solo parenting for me happened when I have come to fully accept how I became a parent even if it looked very disgraceful for others and regardless of how ‘unideal’ it started. I know that did not determine the course of our lives and embracing the unique family composition we had — that having less of a member did not make us less of a family,” Bettina said.
Five months into her marriage with Mikki, Bettina noted the happiness she is seeing in her daughter Gummy.
She said, “If you are a solo child of a solo parent it could be a struggle. Then the Lord blessed me with a husband. Gummy enjoys the feeling of having a father. Na-enrich ‘yung family life namin.”
As hard as it may be, one thing that is amazing about being a solo mom according to Bettina is that women always emerge victorious, wiser and stronger because of the challenges.
“It’s not a walk in the park. There’s no formula or manual on solo parenting. But the route is to learn as we go through it,” Bettina concluded.