When that time comes, I want to be myself, but I would still incorporate all the lessons I gained from my mom
Now that my national team duty is in the books and the Philippine Superliga All-Filipino Conference is yet to start, I have a golden opportunity to stay home and wear my most favorite hat — being a daughter.
What we have is a very typical household.
My parents are in-charge of the house and all of us have very busy schedules.
My Papa brings my siblings — Miko and Mikole — to school every day.
Miko is into basketball while Mikole is also into volleyball. So, you can just imagine the very long hours they spend in school for studying and training, not to mention their regular tournaments that we, as a family, make sure to watch.
Also, my parents go to Bulacan from time to time to monitor our small business there. If they are busy, it’s going to be my aunt who will man our Noodle House.
As a daughter, I’m both needy and independent.
Of course, there are things that my parents already know so I make sure to seek their advice.
But when it comes to major decisions, I prefer not to involve them so they won’t be stressed out. Sure, I tell my mom about them and she usually says her piece. At the end of the day, I would still be making the decision.
Maybe it’s because I got used to being independent due to the time I spent away from them while studying and playing for La Salle.
Living independently empowered me to make my own decisions and be ready for the possible consequences.
Of course, everybody commits mistakes.
And I know there’s always a lesson in every fall.
I’m glad that my mom didn’t really mind those mistakes made.
I made a lot of follies during my younger, immature years. But she was still here for me and reminded me to come up with better decisions and judgment the next time.
She’s my ultimate teacher.
She always say that whatever happens, I am still her daughter and that she’s just here for me to pick up the pieces, to guide me whenever I fall.
Whenever I have a bad game, she always motivates me.
She says “sayang!” or “okay lang yan, bawi ka na lang next time” instead of rubbing it into my face that I faltered big time.
She’s such a great motivator.
She knows me too well and she knows how to fire me up.
I can never forget how she encouraged me when I decided to transfer to Petron.
We all know that La Salle is my comfort zone and everybody there — from my teammates, to my coaches down to the staff — is like a family to me.
At that time, I felt that leaving La Salle is like leaving my home.
But my mom was there to support me.
She said a little change in environment could be a major help — not only for my career but for my personal growth as well.
She also told me that it’s about time for me to step out of my comfort zone and leaving my friends and teammates is also a perfect opportunity for me to rediscover myself.
True enough, she was right.
Aside from winning a couple of titles with Petron, a lot of doors have opened and I now feel at home with my teammates.
Soon, the bright lights of volleyball will shut down on me.
I would find myself with my own family and own household to take care of.
Papa won’t be bringing Miko and Mikole to school anymore as both of them will also have families of their own. My parents would just be sitting at the veranda while having coffee, waiting for their children and grandchildren to visit.
When that time comes, I want to be myself, but I would still incorporate all the lessons I gained from my mom.
I want to adopt her very simple way of living, the way she handles her problems, and the way she runs our household.
They say that mothers know best.
I strongly agree.
And for me, she’s my life’s greatest teacher.